I have been in blog hibernation and I knew it would take a powerful topic to pull me out! Ironically, the very thing that pulls me inward and forces me to withdraw at times is the very thing that pulls me back out.
I consider myself an introverted extrovert (or ambivert), which can make navigating life interesting at times and navigating a business downright challenging!
For those of you who are not familiar with this term, let's explore it a little first. To be introverted typically means to be more on the shy side. You enjoy going inward and prefer to spend time alone. Whereas to be extroverted is to thrive on being around people and high energy situations.
Although some of you may relate to one or the other, some of you may relate to both. We call these folks introverted extroverts (or ambiverts). Instead of thinking of 2 distinct sides, think of it more like a sliding spectrum. I know for me it feels like a pendulum or a wave I ride.
For example, this past month I was really riding that extrovert high! I was putting myself out there, making great strides in my business, and even experiencing a lot of personal bests for myself. Then the pendulum swung and I went into my highly introverted inward space.
I came home from an intense business conference and felt the need to slow down and go inward, despite desperately wanting to keep that momentum going in my business. I felt zero drive, did not want to put myself out there to meet new people and found myself feeling quiet and vulnerable.
These massive pendulum swings are not easy and we tend to make them much harder by placing unrealistic expectations on ourselves. Even though my heard wanted to push my mind and soul have not been on board with that!
I have learned that no matter what, I have to honor where I'm at and be open to what life is trying to tell me. There would have been a time I definitely would have been really hard on myself for slowing down. Now I meet myself where I'm at, whatever that looks like.
Since I know I'm not the only one that deals with this on a regular basis, I wanted to share with you a few tips to help you navigate it in a healthy manner.
1. Honor where you're at
Like I said, the very best thing you can do is honor where you're at ... no matter what! If you have plans that involve pushing but you get that call to go inward, answer it!
2. Get to know your introvert & extrovert sides
There are two sides to you so get to know them both. What does your extrovert side like? What does your introvert side like? Spend time getting to know and celebrating all aspects of YOU!
3. Don't be afraid to speak your truth
Share these sides of yourself with your support circle. When you let people in and share what you need, your loved ones will know how to best support you.
4. It's OK to say NO ... even when it's last minute
This used to be a tough one for me! My extroverted self would make plans and then the day of those plans my introvert would pop her head out and suddenly the plans I made were the last thing I needed in that moment. Again, those around you will understand and if they don't ... that's on them and not on you. Trust me when I tell you, they will get over it! You do you boo!
Whatever you do, never apologize for being YOU! Be gentle and loving with your introverted side and let that extroverted side out when it needs to come out! Honor and celebrate your wild and beautiful ride as an introverted extrovert.